What is a solution to avoid the shadows?

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. It’s what sunflowers do.” – Helen Keller

Easier said than done, right?
But what about, what about, what about…?!

The thing is, if we choose to be optimistic about the future, then it helps to avoid the bad crap, and from allowing it to suck us in. I say the word “helps” because not everything in life comes easy to some people. But baby steps can help us to focus on our current life events, even if challenges arise, and we figure out a way to face those challenges head on. Somehow. Some way.

I am one of those people that when things are said, they stick with me. When actions are taken, they stick with me. And sure, it can be a great thing, but it is also a not-so-great thing sometimes. Yet, each turn in life, there is always some kind of explanation. Whether good or bad, and I guess it is considered a learning curve, right?

But then I find myself asking …

Is it a blessing? Or a lesson?

I mean, every experience and every issue handed to us is something we must grasp, and comprehend. But there’s always the question as to why? There’s always that anxious part of the mind that asks the same, repeated questions – “Why do particular things happen when they do?” and, “What in hell is it supposed to mean?!”

And then there’s the question (or maybe statement), when others are involved, whether it be with the people you know, or as a society, “Well, if they do it, why can’t I?”

I believe that this can be a very dangerous question.

Let me share one of my videos with you, kind of describing this kind of situation…

Now when it comes to my children, it’s a different story. And trust me, I’m not going to go and just jump off a bridge, intentionally! I did do the bungee jumping, the zip-lining, the jumping out of an airplane; yes BUT, that was to overcome my fears and to feel the adrenaline rush!


But, wait. What about when it comes to people we love? Our family? People we call friends? What happens when something is said and all you can think about is that situation, at that time, and how it affected you. And even though it’s in the past and done, new circumstances appear and that moment in the past, comes back in your mind all over again. Then, that same fear creeps in. The doubt. The anxiety. And before you know it, your mind is all tangled, once again…

Here is the question of all questions – how can it affect you, even now, after it has all been said and done?! And wait, how DOES it affect you?! Here’s my theory:


What happens is, that it affects your TODAY.

It affects current relationships.
It affects your mood.
It affects your mentality.
It affects your emotions.
It affects you physically.

Oh yeah, those ten extra pounds – how did they creep up so fast?! Oh, and people who think you’re “losing” it – when one minute you’re laughing and smiling, and then the next minute, you’re crying or frustrated…yep!

Hmmmm…maybe it’s that time of month again?!

And let’s not forget about spiritually as well, where you question yourself as to, “Is there really a God, or someone higher”?

But listen, it doesn’t mean you are going crazy nor does it mean you are crazy!! It just means that, you have your fears. It just means that some things in life, stick with you more than sometimes you would like them to. And it means that you hope the people who do understand you, will have the patience TO understand you!

Okay, so you get the point, or rather you get my point. And please remember, this is only my point of view. I am NO expert, by all means. I only speak from experience, and more so, my heart.

Basically, it feels like you are running so fast, like on a hamster wheel – spinning and spinning – until you lose control and then spin out of control!!


So how do we gain control? How do we get back on that damn hamster wheel, and keep composed while still maintaining our daily lives?

Do we talk about these issues that keep coming up in our minds? Do we really, really, untangle our minds, and set it free? Or is it better just to stay quiet, and hope that eventually, the thoughts will go away? This would be when we could take a “shath” – my way of taking a shower and bath at the same time (something that totally helps me ease my mind!!). And no, “shath” is not an English word!!

Other ways to clear the mind is to meditate – take a walk, read a book, do some writing, listen to music … music is always so soothing … here is one of my favourite calming songs.

I know I’ve said this before, but I’m saying it again because saying it over and over helps keep the positive thoughts in the mind!

I believe a lot of this has to do with…

If you cannot accept who you are, or try to help yourself to overcome these fears and get help, it is going to be very hard for you to look towards the sunshine…You HAVE to love yourself, because deep down is the real you and you ARE special. You ARE important. You ARE unique in your own way. We all are. Failures and all. It doesn’t mean we stop. It doesn’t mean we doubt. It doesn’t mean we give up.

Instead of looking at all the wrongs in life, we have to look at all the rights. All the good things. The things that did, and do, bring happiness to us!!

Even though again, my vision seems like it is going downhill (in other words, more narrow) – I have my children to keep me busy. I have my Tik Tok videos to keep my mind thinking of new ideas to act silly – truth is, I only have to look at a small screen – it is well within my peripheral vision 😉. Meh, it makes me smile to do these things, and I am hopeful it can bring others joy in their tough times, not just this whole Coronavirus thing!!

Yes, I worry about the things I am experiencing now. I worry about why my mind gets all tangled up. But then I realize that, I am me. I am no one special, but me. I think things the way I do because that’s just me. At the end of the day, if someone doesn’t understand the way I think – I can’t do anything about it. I’m not crazy for thinking things the way I do. I’m not wrong, and maybe I’m not 100% completely right. But I have my reasons for those thoughts.

It doesn’t justify who I am. We all have our different battles, some more so than others…we just have to continue to be ourselves and push forward!!

I brought up my vision because there are a lot of things I “miss”. And when I say “miss”, I don’t mean in the way that, “Oh, I miss going on trips…”. I’ve been fortunate enough to have many experiences in my lifetime – with and without my children.

I mean in the way that I “visually” miss things. A lot of people today are so hung up on the fact that they are not able to “go out”. Well, I am one of those people that actually don’t see a difference, as I am sure there are a lot of those people – especially those dealing with mental health challenges or vision loss. As I’ve said it before and I say it again…we are all in this together. There are some people who don’t have the courage to step outside the doors even in their every day life, know what I mean? Some people due to illnesses can’t step out their doors. Life can be challenging in different ways for anyone and everyone!

The only change for me is that I have the children 24-7 which really isn’t a bad thing because there is noise in the house now. There is action. There is love and beauty, even when mom gets frustrated at times!

My every day situation of sending the kids to school and being home – it’s quiet. Sure, now the routine is out of whack in the sense of timing, but we manage. Is it perfect? NO!!! I will tell you this though – we are fortunate to have a roof over our head, clothing to wear, food to eat. And that, I am so thankful for!!

I never went out if I didn’t have to. I stayed home and I still stay home. Why? Because unfortunately, my lack of vision and the extremity of my anxiety (at times), keeps me put. But it’s OKAY. It’s not the end of the world! And I can’t cry about it…well wait, I can. I have. But, I keep telling myself that there is a light at the end of the tunnel! That it’s just a phase. And I do what I do to keep pushing forward, day by day. I hope those reading this, can find some resolution to help them to keep pushing forward, as hard as it may seem!

Here, to end this, I will post this piano piece – because I love the song, and it’s peaceful!! We are not alone in this world. We all have “something” and it doesn’t give anyone the right to judge another just because they seem “happy” and are “smiling”. You just never know what their story is. Offer kindness, gratitude. Even a virtual hug goes a long way!!

Peace and love to you all! ❤️

Remember to check out my site https://coil.com/u/theminduntangled for more of my writing and also my videos at https://www.cinnamon.video/theminduntangled!

Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…

Sandra Scala

Practice makes PERFECT!

The Mind, Untangled.

I love playing the piano and find that it helps with my anxious mind!
Here I am playing Fur Elise by Beethoven – an all-time favourite!!

Not perfect – but – practice makes perfect!!!
And – an added bonus is that it makes me feel great!!

What do you do to help calm your mind?

Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…

Sandra Scala

Your Worth…

“If they don’t see you for your worth.
Then they’re not worth seeing you at all.”
– Sandra Scala

No – it doesn’t matter how many times you’ve tried explaining your point of view, and they just don’t get it. It doesn’t matter how hard you work at your job, and they just don’t get it.

It doesn’t matter how many times you scream inside your head, “why can they not just understand my point of view?” or “why can they not just understand that I AM the reason that…”.

Let me tell you something – there are going to be people in your life who will not understand your perception, or your hard work, period. They will not understand your worth towards that relationship. Or your worth to that job. Or your worth as a friend. And you know what? They don’t deserve an explanation from you, or your time. You have tried your best…

There are going to be people who take advantage of you, and there are going to be companies who will work you hard until you are just too darn overwhelmed to do anything about it anymore – because in your mind – you have shown your worth. You have given your dedication.

Think about it for a second – are they really worth your time? Your aggravation? Your stress? Are they really “seeing” you for who you are, and are they appreciating the fact that you are worth it? That you are the reason…..(whatever the reason may be).

I’ve been hurt (emotionally, mentally).
I’ve been used. Over and over.
And there comes a point when enough is enough.
There is only so much your body can handle.
So, what can YOU do?
The people who hurt you, who used you, who never saw your true worth….
let them go, and put it behind you.

It’s not about how many friends you have, or how many people you feel you need to prove that you are worthy.

You need to BE and FEEL worthy within yourself.

The people who truly do understand and “see” your worth, will stand by you, and will make you feel GOOD. Once you are happy within yourself, you can BE happy with your surroundings and the people who are IN your life.

Surround yourself around people who are true to you, even through your dark times. The ones who will take the time to understand your situation. The ones who put a smile on your face, make you laugh, make you cry (in a good way! 😉). The ones who appreciate you for the joys you bring in their lives, as they do yours. ❤️

Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…

Sandra Scala

Help me reach my goal!

OKAY, everyone, I’ve got some news!!!! 😲

I will be doing something on August 9th, the day of my 40th Birthday … keep reading… 😉

First, I want to thank all of my followers for your love and support! What an amazing journey it has been!!

A lot of you know that I deal with my vision loss and anxiety on a daily basis, and I try to live life to the fullest, with my family and close friends!! I started The Mind, Untangled., in hopes to motivate and inspire those going through dark times in their life, encouraging those to realize that they are NOT alone!

We all have fears. We all have worries. Me, I try to face mine, and I hope you do too. Try to find the courage and strength within, while maintaining peace, happiness, and love, to keep pushing forward!

I will be taking part in a panel discussion on July 13th, at the Usher Syndrome Coalition in Philadelphia, and I really hope to reach my fundraising goal of $1000 in order to help find a cure for Usher Syndrome, and sooo….I have decided to go SKYDIVING!

I have done a bungee jump – https://youtu.be/lRgwpyJ9uLk – and zip lining experience in beautiful Whistler, British Columbia (Canada) – and even then, I couldn’t do the jump on my own. BUT, this time, it’s going to be just me, tandem jumping from 13,500 feet in Gatineau-Ottawa (Canada) with Parachute GO Skydive!!

Am I freaked out? Absolutely!!
But I’m going to do this, for all of my #RP#UsherSyndrome family, and for all of those who are facing fears. We only live this life once, so enjoy every bit you can of it!!!! #faceyourfears

Help me raise my goal for USH Connections Conference 2019, and let’s give hope to all of those living with Usher Syndrome! ❤️

To make a donation and read my story, please click on this link:

Keep trying …

“sometimes no matter how hard you try. it feels as if it’s never good enough.”
– Sandra Scala

Do you ever feel this way? You try so hard to get your point across, but it’s not ever good enough or acknowledged for what it’s worth?

Let me tell you something. I’ve felt this way, I’m guilty of this. Many times. And the truth is, it brought me down. Many times.

But I’ve realized, I AM worth it. I am a kind person, and I try my best to be the best I can be.

YOU have to realize this too. If you accept the fact that yes, you gave it your all, then that IS worthy!

There’s going to be those times when you keep re-thinking all the possibilities of what could have been said or done, but you’re only going to make yourself more hurt and angry over something you have no control over.

In these moments, you have to let it go. You have to train your brain, and your heart, to accept the fact that although someone may not see things the same way you do, it’s OK. You have your ways, and you have your beliefs.

At the end of the day, if you KNOW that you have given it your all, and that you are a good person for at least trying, then that’s amazing!

You are your own person. Don’t put yourself down and don’t be angry at yourself, or others. Believe in YOU, and just keep pushing forward, because you need to take care of you first!

Try this – repeat to yourself, “I am good enough. I am better then good enough. And I will do what I need to do – to be happy, to stay strong, and to live my life to the fullest.” Try this (along with deep breaths), and don’t let anybody else’s words or actions bring you down! ❤️

Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…

Sandra Scala

Untangle your mind…

“Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It only takes away today’s peace.”
– Randy Armstrong

I’m untangling my mind, and setting it free…I put my hair up, smiled, and set aside my anxious emotions…I took time by the sea, as I watched the sun set.

It was peaceful – quiet, with soft music playing in the background. It was a much needed, relaxing night.

Remember – over-analysis leads to paralysis. If we think too hard and too much – if we worry all the time – our minds will be filled with uneasiness and tension, and will rob us of our happiness.

Clear your mind – find some quiet time. And I know it’s not easy, but try not to worry so much. Find a way…you got this! ❤️

Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…

Sandra Scala

You have what it takes…

“Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…”
That’s what I say, and that’s what my goal is!

I won’t let anxiety or fear stop me, and neither should you!!
Let’s face the darkness, and keep. staying. positive.

Don’t let words of others stop you from doing what you are passionate about; AND, don’t allow inner thoughts stop you from pushing forward, even when you have doubts!!

This picture was taken when I went to Berlin, Germany, for treatment on my eyes.
Even though I had my doubts and fears, and the treatment did not work for me – I was still able to appreciate the time spent there. And even now, I cherish the time I do have TODAY!

Just remember, you have what it takes, so keep on going…❤️

Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…

Sandra Scala

Trust …

“It can take a long time to build trust.
Yet, it can be easily destroyed overnight…”

– Sandra Scala

Trusting someone is hard,
especially when you’ve been hurt,
over and over.

BUT, you know what?
There is hope, and there is trust!
It just takes time, and patience.

Once the trust is earned, keep it.
Don’t tell secrets. Don’t tell lies.
It can be easily destroyed overnight.

Avoid unnecessary drama.
Avoid the people who bring you down.
This will, in fact, lead to happiness!! ❤️

Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…

Sandra Scala