First of all, for those who are unsure of what this article is about, Riley Q. took the initiative to start a Coil Challenge, and here are the details:
As Stefano says, “Hey hey heeeey!!” … I will use his trademark to let you know we are going to get started soon 😉. But first, I want to say a bit about Stefano. He has become such a great friend to me – I consider him famiglia, from the other side of the world! I highly recommend you check out Stefano’s articles sharing his thoughts, and especially his videos showing weekly updates on the crypto market!
Grazie, Stefano, for the challenge!❤️
Now, let’s get to it, “Sandrina! My questions for you are:”
1. If you could choose to be a creature/animal (you can choose even a fantasy one) who would you be and why?
This here, is something I have really been pondering, and I seriously believe I would choose…a dragon. A dragon? But why in the world would you want to be a dragon?! I get it, not the cutest creature or nicest by all means, but I do have my reasons …
When I think of a dragon,I think of beauty. I think of power. I think of life.
I think of how people “fear” dragons. In today’s society, there is so much hatred and violence. Ugh, it makes me sick. There is so much bullying going around, not only in the school systems, but in real life situations as well.
In my past, I have been taken advantage of, and I guess we all have at some point. But call me sensitive, I always seemed to get trapped in my own emotions and feelings (and truth be told, still do at times). At least with a dragon, I could let out some of the build up. I could “stand up” for myself (and my family and friends).
As a dragon, you wouldn’t have that fear anymore…wouldn’t it be awesome, if someone just “looked” at you, and ran away, knowing that they couldn’t harm you?! Knowing that they couldn’t control you?!
Think of it as in Game of Thrones and Daenerys Stormborn (Mother of Dragons). Seriously, wow, right? Those three dragons protected her! Yes, she made some bad decisions at the end; however, it IS a show!😉
Those dragons would do anything for her. And yet, they were also tame at times. I like to think of it as me – protecting my children – being there for them and trying to guide them through the harsh times in life. Even though we need to learn how to defend ourselves, there are times when we feel so powerless.
I think as a dragon, I would have the ability to be both tame and fierce, when I needed to be. Even if it was just for one day, to be that big beautiful creature, and all those people who hurt you (or your loved ones) mentally, emotionally, physically – they are all running away from you now because you have the power. Because you are no longer powerless with your thoughts and your words. Just for that one day …
I could protect my family in a far away land for hundreds of years, flying over the cities and making sure there was peace, and live happily ever after…
I could, I could, I could…but for now, I do the best I can being a wife, a mom, a stepmom, daughter, sister, aunt, … and everything else that I am …
2. How did you become The Mind, Untangled.?
For many years, since I left high school, I wrote poetry, and have always wanted to write a book. 😳
Since about ten years ago, I wanted to start my own blog. I wanted to speak and share my thoughts with the world. I wanted to try and make a difference in other peoples’ lives, but there was always just so much going on in my life – single mom, no longer working, no driver’s license, etc. etc. – I don’t want pity, I’m just saying. I’ve had a lot of dark times, and I needed to turn things around.
But I was always too scared. I always thought, “what are people going to think?” “What if….” There were just TOO many insecurities going on in my head, but then one night, I said I’m going to do it. I set up my Facebook account and other social media, and voila. I shared my story and it really kicked off from there. It’s amazing how many people reached out to me. I have sold many copies of my book, I have my own (as my girls would call it) MERCH, and here I am, always untangling my mind!! I have been honoured to speak at a few venues – sharing my story, talking about anxiety, autism, differences.
And trust me, it hasn’t been easy, my mind is a very busy place and I am constantly thinking about all the little things, which really, shouldn’t even be crossing my mind!
Here is a link to my first post – Staying Strong, even through the darkness… for those who haven’t read it and aren’t sure what I’m all about! I share my story, and it is explained in more detail!!
Basically, I wanted to share my story and talk about Mental Health – help people who are going through dark times. Because I KNOW we are NOT alone in this big world! I’m not a psychologist, but I share my own personal experiences.
By me making a difference in someone’s life, it makes me feel good that I am helping them. And truth be told, it helps me – it reminds me that we all have our challenges and that we just need to keep pushing forward, as hard as it may be. Easier said than done, yes, but it’s a matter of trying to stay focused on the positive instead of dwelling on the negative…
3. If you have just one single shot to the lamp’s Genie, what it would be?
Seriously, Stefano, ONE shot only?!
I wish I could take away the mental, emotional, and physical pain of bullying away.
I wish children weren’t so harsh on each other – so mean to each other. It breaks my heart to see and hear about the way children are treated in school, and even outside of school.
And sadly, it doesn’t seem to change.
No, I wouldn’t ask for a cure for my vision loss, if that’s what you were thinking. I have come to the point where I can handle this. I have the right support by my side, and, it’s life.
My children – they come first. They are the ones who will live on. I want them to be ready, to be happy, to have everything they desire in life. I want them to be treated with respect, kindness, love, and compassion. I need them to learn how to stick up for themselves and how to excel at the things they want to do.
If I could have all the bullying and crap taken out of this world to make their lives better, even if that means not being able to see – then so be it. If it means me saving someone else’s life because they didn’t have to go through depression and anxiety, thinking suicide was the only way out, then yes, my wish is to take away the bullying because it’s not nice. It’s not cool. And it makes people feel worthless and unaccepted. It’s nonsense.
Okay, I have to stop talking about this now, I’m getting too wound up here…it’s such a passionate topic for me…
4. What is your favorite recreational activity?
CHESS wins this one! I love playing chess when I get the chance! I will play it either with my husband or my daughters. It’s a challenge, and it’s a game I can play that doesn’t involve using my vision too much, but it sure does make me THINK a lot!!
I came up with this quote below, and the picture is taken from my chess set at home.
We all make mistakes, whether it be in a relationship, as a parent, friendships, or in a job. We ALL make wrong choices, but you know what? We have to learn from these things. Sometimes, we don’t know until it is too late; BUT, we still have another chance to make things better. To make things right, as much as we can!
Life isn’t perfect, and no one is perfect. They can be perfect in our own eyes, but in reality, our choices and decisions in life mold us into who we are. We try and we may succeed, BUT, we may also fail. It doesn’t mean we just give up…we have to keep trying!
Stefano – The Mind, Untangled. is because I always have so many things going on my mind, right? I was always so scared to share my thoughts. I was the one who would lie in bed under the covers. I’ve gone into over-panic mode, where I have screamed, I have cried, I have shaken so bad causing me to throw up. Sweaty palms. I have had those moments, and I still have those moments sometimes, but I am getting better at handling it.
I just take it a day at a time. I don’t want people to feel that they have to “hide”. Hiding doesn’t do any of us good. It’s okay to fail in life, but it’s not okay to treat people like they are worthless. It’s not nice to take people for granted.
If I was that dragon – I could live for hundreds of years, and try to make things right. Right now, I’m just a girl offering hope out there to those who are seeking it.
My goal is to help make this world a better place. I wish peace and harmony. Kindness. Love. Compassion. All of it. And for now, I will enjoy this life, with my girls and family – with what I can see, with what I can do, and with every day that is given to me. Life is too short to be wasted on people that don’t show kindness, empathy, or gratification. Life is too short to allow the negative overpower the positive. Know what I mean?
We all are equal. There is no better, no less. We all try to do the best we can – and for some – it is easier than others, but that doesn’t make us any less.
Different, not less.
– Temple Grandin
And with that, I will end this by following the rules, and passing four new questions to someone of my choice! I pass this on to Christian Rizea, also known as Dr. Chris. He is someone who I have had some small conversation with, and I am eager to learn more! ❤️
Dr. Chris, let’s untangle your mind – here are my questions for YOU:
- When was a time that you struggled in your life, and what did you do to overcome it (or, how did you overcome it)?
- How long have you been a Psychologist, and what motivated you to pursue that as a career?
- What do you like to do in your spare time?
- Have you ever done motivational speaking, and if you were to now, in this day, what would be your main focus, and why?
Thank you everyone for reading and joining us on this Coil Challenge! Below in Subscriber Section I share a video that I look at from time to time … but first:
Also, I did a quick check on where we were at with the challenge – here is how the list goes!
Riley Q.Patricia C.Adam Waring – Aussie Ninja Patricia B. Dani Torres NickelNDime Seth Stanley XRPtheStandardProductions Michael B. Randal C – Crypto Pilot Ramon Ramentol – Moncho Niels Srdan Vocanec Michele Lancia Sandra Scala – The Mind, Untangled.
“Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…”