Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out!
– Robert Tew
I believe that at some point in our lives, we encounter people who tend to bring us down, or “pour” their negativity unto us. The person who is unhappy in their relationship. The person who is unhappy in their job situation. The person who is unhappy with their friendships.
In the midst of all this, you start feeling guilty and you get trapped into believing that you can help those people out. You are their friend/spouse/family, and you will stand by them, because that’s what we are supposed to do, right? You feel that you need to be there for them…
Yet at the same time, how much can you do for them if they are unwilling to recognize their own unhealthy ways? How healthy is this for your mentality? For your emotional state of mind? For your own close relationships? Especially when you have your own life to live with your long list of responsibilities?
You know, it’s one thing to be there for the people you care about, but it’s another thing when boundaries are crossed. When that person is just pushing it a little too much and stepping over your boundaries, not respecting your relationships or life choices. When that person every time you see them, leaves you feeling emotionally drained and exhausted.
You find yourself starting to feel dissatisfied and questioning all the little things in your own life, and seriously, where does that leave you? …
In the same spot as them?Unhappy?
A toxic person – the person who only talks about the “bad” things in their life. The person who is never satisfied with what is right in front of them. The person who takes advantage of others and manipulates you into thinking that you are the one with the problem, and easily so much more…
It happens so fast when you get trapped in a toxic relationship, without even realizing it – until it has gotten to the point where your head feels like it is going to explode.
Sure, we all have our moments – our bad days. But there’s a certain boundary – there’s a certain point when you have to draw the line, and separate yourself away from those types of people. There is also a certain point in life when you have to let some people go, so that they can live their lives, with the ones they care about.
You see, I believe we each have that person who we open up to and talk to about our emotional feelings. Our jobs. Our financial situations. Just about everything in general. If in a relationship, then it is only natural that you are going to talk to your partner about all the little things, right? I mean, why wouldn’t you?
The thing is – you can always do something about your situation – it is your choice, and your decision.
Is it better for your mental health to “kick” the people who cause you stress and anxiety out, just like the unwanted thoughts? In my opinion, absolutely!
It may not be easy to let someone you thought meant the world to you, go…it may be sad; BUT, questions to ask yourself – if you allow those people to bring you down, when will YOU be happy with yourself?
What happens when a conversation just didn’t “get” anywhere, how much more can any of you really try? How can you find peace within yourself to let it go, if it is constantly in the back of your mind?
Take a second to notice who matters to you. Who brings you joy and happiness. Who helps make you a better person. At the end of the day, YOU have to make YOU happy. No one else can do it for you.
All you can do, is eliminate the toxicity in your head and in your life, and keep pushing forward! ❤️
“Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…”