Self-love and self-acceptance

Yes, this is me in the header picture and in this picture, I am happy. Of course I am happy – I was on vacation with my family at Myrtle Beach about two years ago!

I was roaming through pictures when I stumbled upon this one and I thought to myself – oh my – look at my thighs. It’s silly though – actually, it’s absurd, right? You’re saying, “why would she think that of herself?” I ask myself the same thing sometimes.

Well let me tell you, I really don’t dwell on my weight. I have three teenagers who look up to me, and when I hear them say, “ugh I’m fat”, I look at them in horror and say, “seriously?” I joke with them and say – “look at my love handles!!”
I am the one who tries to boost their self-confidence in themselves by assuring them that they are stunningly beautiful, inside AND out! Because they ARE!!

My three girls ...
You know what? I really, truly despise the word “fat”. I think that women care too much of what they look like on the outside, rather than focusing what is on the inside. I think that they try to impress and want to look “good” for others.

The thing is, the way society is today – with all of the models posing and the women who tend to share pictures to show that their life is perfect – it sets an image. An image that women should “look” a certain way. I ask, “why?”

Why do we have to go out and buy make-up, pretty dresses and fancy shoes? Why? Who are we trying to impress?

There should be no one to impress but ourselves. We need to learn how to love ourselves and accept ourselves for who we are, not what we look like!!
Why do we have to work out and lose a ton of weight? Just so that we can fit into size zero jeans? For who? For what?

I have been in a spot where I lost too much weight. Stress caused that. I was in size zero clothing. And when I look back on those days, there is no way in hell I would want to go back. I was too skinny and I was unhealthy – I admit it. But in time, I did gain my weight back and started to look healthy again.

I have learned to accept who I am and what I look like. Quite frankly, if you don’t like it, then too bad!
I am not saying you have to go overboard and either eat too much or eat too little. Everything in life is about moderation.

Do what makes you feel happy, inside and out, but don’t do it for the wrong reasons – and stay strong through it all! Remember …
“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”

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