People think being alone makes you lonely, but I don’t think that’s true. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.
– Kim Culbertson
I came across the above quote, and thought to myself, “Well isn’t that true!!” I also came across a story that I want to share. Maybe you’ve heard it before, maybe you haven’t – but it’s been told for many, many years, in different forms – an old wives’ tale, perhaps?
I think it is important, and a great reminder as to who we surround ourselves with – who our real friends are – who our “people” are.
It’s a story about a woman and her snake.
There was a woman who had a snake as her pet – a python, whom she loved very much.
Every evening, the woman would sleep with her pet python, as it sprawled her body, spreading itself from her head to her toes. The woman cherished this bonding moment.
Until she noticed something was wrong.
After weeks of sleeping with the woman in her bed, the snake suddenly stopped eating. The woman wondered why, as she became concerned, and decided it was time to take the snake to the vet. It didn’t make sense to her as to why the snake was refusing meal times that it normally used to love.
It seemed as if the 7-foot python was starving itself, and when the vet asked about their daily routine, he was shocked to hear that the woman and the python slept together every night.
When the vet asked the woman if the snake sprawled out along her body or curled up to her at times, she confirmed that the snake did indeed.
It was then that the vet explained to the woman that there was nothing wrong with the snake – it was actually sizing her up. Every time the snake was sprawling itself along her body, it was preparing for its next big meal – HER!It turns out that the snake was patiently waiting until the perfect time for it to snatch up its prey, its next big course, and in this case – the person it was most close to – its owner!
The moral of this story is that there are people in our lives who are close to us. They may seem like our best friend, and we confide in them our deepest thoughts. We learn to trust them.
But sometimes, that trust is broken.
At the end of the day,people can be like snakes – they will intimidate and manipulate you until you give in to their evil ways – until you give them what they want. They become envious and jealous of you and try to destroy your happiness.
You have to separate yourself from these types of people before it’s too late!! It’s crazy because you think you know someone, then all of a sudden, their mask comes off and their true colours show. The person you thought they were to be, the friend you thought they were, actually turns out to be the exact opposite!
Don’t get me wrong, clearly not everyone out there is like that, and this is only my point of view based on my past experiences.
Friendships really do make our world a happy place, but there are those that tend to bring us down and sometimes, there is not a heck of a lot you can do about their behaviour. It is up to you to decide whether or not you want to be around those people…
This story is a great lesson because it can teach us that even the people who are close to us, the ones who hug us, call us or text us every day – can have mean intentions. It teaches us that not everyone is who they portray themselves out to be.
Don’t fear the enemy who attacks you, but the fake friend that hugs you.
You need to surround yourselves with honest, kind, and loving people. Recognize the “fake” ones, and don’t feel guilty about moving on.
You need to look out for yourself, and your mental and emotional well-being.
Remember – treat people as you wish to be treated. A kind word, a helping hand – it all goes a long way!