I remember when I was a little girl, the excitement I would feel when I saw a field full of daisies. Oh, how happy I was when I would pick one, pluck the petals – chanting, “he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not…” and how I would squeal and jump, “HE LOVES ME!!!!”.
I also remember the times bending down to pick another daisy, and the last pluck would be, “he loves me not”, as I mumbled it under my breath, tears welling up in my eyes. I would try again and again, until it was what I wanted it to be. But, guess what? Life isn’t that way….we can’t always have what we want.
Back then, I had no pressures as a child except to make friends, learn in school, and enjoy time spent with my family and the close friends I did have. I was a lucky girl. And today now, with children of my own (and a new family), the pressures of keeping a roof over our heads, putting food on the table, buying new clothing, paying the bills, the changes in society…the pressure nowadays as an adult – a wife, a mom, a stepmom. Pressures, I never understood as a child. But, also what I would never ever change, within my control, for a second! I still consider myself lucky.
You see, I’ve done the daisies with my children, giggling like a little child. And I’m doing my best as a mom, teaching them the good in life. BUT, I am also teaching them the “wrongs” in life and how to protect themselves, and be aware. To not allow people to hurt them emotionally or treat them badly.
Sometimes our “dreams” seem like they are too far out of reach because we did not take the chance, or we were simply not given the chance. Sometimes our thoughts and feelings are shattered because of the way other people treat us. Because of the way other people look down on us. Because of the way other people judge, not even giving us a chance. BUT, you can’t allow these people to take control, and make you feel this way. You can’t allow these people to just walk all over you. You need to stand your ground, and take control of YOU.
How nice it would be if the world could be a place where we all felt equal and got along. How nice it would be, if everyone was treated equally. How nice it would be, if we could all have what we “wanted”, but more importantly, what we “needed”…
The fact is, we all face different challenges, whether it has to do with a relationship, mental health, a disability, a sickness, a death, or even poverty…we all at some point in our lives, are faced with obstacles that shift our focus.
I say – don’t give up!! You need to find a way to stay focused.
To stay focused on your TODAY. Find your WHY, your REASON.
That will help you to keep pushing forward, to avoid the negative thoughts and the negative people. To avoid the negative news that the media hands out, and the negative feelings that you feel.
How nice it would be if the world was not so judgmental, and we didn’t take things for granted. Seriously, when was the last time you gave someone a chance? When was the last time you looked around and thought, “wow, I better smarten up and enjoy today, and help make a difference – I’m going to help that person because they are struggling, or, I’m going to let my loved one know just how much I appreciate them. I’m going to hug my child every day and just let them know how much I truly love them, and appreciate them, for all that they do.” All these little things are blessings in life…
When was the last time you just let yourself be like a little child, running around freely, pure and innocent, just like a daisy? When was the last time…?!
Please, be kind, be compassionate, show love.
There are many people who struggle and the last thing they need, or want, is someone telling them they’re not good enough, or they don’t stand a chance.
Enjoy the time you do have, today. Life is just too short.
It’s only impossible if you make it impossible.
Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…Sandra Scala