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A speech for my sister

The meaning to my life, is my family. Without my family, I would be lost. And today, I felt like writing about my sister’s special day.

I remember back seven years ago, when I was sitting on the train, on my way home from work.

I started writing a speech to my sister, for her wedding day. I was the Maid of Honor, and so of course, I also had a surprise for her! That, I will share in the Subscriber Only Section below.

But on that day home, I just let my mind roam, and here I am going to share that speech. But before I do, here, is a picture of us on her wedding day…

“Oh boy, here I am. In front of a wonderful crowd of family and friends who are here to share the joy of Josie and Tim’s wedding today.

First – Tim, and Meg – on behalf of Mom, Dad, Gae, Yvonne, the girls and myself, we welcome you to our Scala family!

Now, I want to point out the day, the actual day of this special time. June 21st, the first day of Summer, which comes every year…who could pick such a better time?!
It’s a time signifying new beginnings…births-signifying life; leaves filling bare trees, bringing them to life; flowers blooming-signifying beauty; the flowing of the oceans and waters-signifying purity; the ground filling with bright green grass-signifying growth and earth; and most importantly, love..love is in the air, don’t you think? Not just love, love, which is why we are here today, but love in the circle of life, everything about Summer brings us joy and happiness, and love….
Josie and Tim are brought together within this circle of life…how amazing is that? And now, they will begin their life, as husband and wife, as lovers, as soulmates…they will begin their journey, together, as a couple, with Meaghan under their wings. A trio, a beautiful, astonishing trio, who are all joined together to spend the rest of their lives together…

For those of you who really know us, Jos and I go way back. Borne into this world as twins….inseparable. Same kind of clothes, same friends, heck-even the same campus for college…
But..we have different minds, different personalities, different ways of doing things…and even though we have our differences, we were, and are, always the other half. Together, we are like two peas in a pod. We’ve had some arguments, of course, but we’ve always stuck by one another. We’ve always told each other the truth. We’ve never let each other down.

We argue about who’s more beautiful, and today, I can finally win the argument that she is. We argue about who loves each other more….today, I can answer that. It’s not about who loves each other more, it’s about the bond we share. There is never a doubt about our love for each other…and today, I look at the love that she is spreading elsewhere – to her husband, and to his little girl…and together, they are now one family. You can’t beat that. It’s a wonderful feeling to know that you are loved, cared for… and it’s also a wonderful feeling to be in love…
Jos, I could go on forever. I could talk about all the little things we’ve done. But, you know what? Those little things are the things we cherish, and I will always cherish for as long as I’m here…

I want you to enjoy this day, your day. This is your life, and you deserve so much to be happy with Tim and Meg. You deserve the world Jos, and I love you so much.
I am only a bbm away. I will always be your big sister looking down on you, even if it’s only 17 minutes!! I will always be here. I am nothing without you, Jos. You are my hero. You’re everything I wish I could be. You’re a part of my heart. You make me who I am today…

You are an awesome aunt, to my little girls. A great sister, to Gae and Yvonne. A lovely daughter, to mom and dad. An amazing mother, to Meg. An amazing lover, to Tim. And for me, you are the best thing that’s ever happened to me, my twin sister. My soulmate…
I have one more surprise for you Jos…Uncle Brian…

And of course, there were many tears – it was a beautiful night indeed!! Tears shed, lots of dancing, great food, and yes, beverages!!
Josie and Tim’s wedding song was “Then” by Brad Paisley. Such a beautiful song, for a beautiful couple!

Thank you for reading, have a beautiful weekend!

Unexpected but grateful

Embrace the unexpected. The things we never saw coming often take us to the places we never imagined we could go.

Wait, what? I can’t be…!!
But it was true, and it was a surprise at that…
I … WAS … PREGNANT … AGAIN !!!
On November 10, 2006, my third (and last) daughter, Clarissa, was born. Just eight days shy of Madison’s first birthday (almost Irish Twins!!).
We never planned on having another child, it just happened. BUT, I am I SO thankful to have been blessed!! ❤️
If you haven’t seen my articles about my two older girls, you can find them here: Julianna (A Birth Story – A doctor or a midwife?) and Madison (My love for my daughter…).
It’s funny because now that the girls are older – they say, “MOM, you got pregnant on Valentine’s Day!! … two times in a row??!!!” I just laugh at them …. okay girls, a little TMI here!! 🤨😇
When Clarissa was born, they called her the “miracle” baby. She was an easy delivery, but she came out with two knots in her umbilical cord. TWO!! How the heck she survived, I have no idea, but I call myself one lucky Momma!!
I remember the days when I was working and pregnant, I craved Japanese food. I HAD to get to the food court at lunch so that I could have my Teriyaki, rice, and salad! YUM! And now, today, Clarissa is the one who tries every kind of food – you name it! It’s awesome – she likes food that is spicy and unique (even oysters!)!
But you know, even though she was unexpected, I am SO grateful for her, for all the little things she does for me and our family. She is kind, generous, witty, and has quite the sense of humor!

She is beautiful and I am so proud of who she is becoming! She looks up to her sister, Madison, a lot. I will admit, she and Julianna tend to bump heads at time, but I guess that’s the way siblings are, right?! Three girls, one year apart, watch out for the hormones!!!

At a young age, we learned that Clarissa has Tourette’s Syndrome. From time to time, she had her tiks, mostly when stressed, and she still gets them from time to time. The sounds, the eye twitching, the head and body movements. I remember one time when a friend of mine made a joke to her about it, and after I asked Clarissa to leave, I explained to my friend that Clarissa has no idea that she’s doing those movements. I was not upset at my friend, most people just don’t know. I explained it to her, and now she understands.
And Clarissa now, realizes most times when she is involuntarily doing “something”. If I catch it, I will gently nudge her and remind her – and she will help herself to control it.
I was worried about this, because there was some teasing at school, but like I said earlier – Clarissa is a funny one. A comedian I call her! She brushes it off as best as she can, looking the other way…

I do know that deep down, it hurts her feelings. Why wouldn’t it?! She has a heart of gold. For example, there have been two comments on my Tik Tok that have upset her, and she was the first to comment back to them!! I can’t believe how she just sticks up for me like that, and I was like, WOW!!!! Yet, at the same time, it’s not her job to, really…she’s a kid! But, it’s also in her nature, and I’m not going to tell her not to do it. She doesn’t like to see me hurting. Period. Or her sisters, and she will say how she feels. I’m not going to ask her to hide her emotions, because truth is, they need to be expressed.
Clarissa is truly always thinking about others. There was a time when I was single with the three of them – Clarissa must have been about six years old – and we went shopping. She knew about my tunnel vision (I have been as honest as I can be about it with the girls once they were old enough to understand), and she would hide in my blind spot, then would start laughing because she saw me looking around for her like crazy!! But then, what happened was so beautiful …. she grabbed my hand and said, “Come on Mommy, I’m going to guide you so you don’t trip”. 😭😭
To this day, if I don’t have Mimi by my side, she wants to be the one who holds my hand, so I don’t trip or bump into anything. And I’m a mom, so I will take the hand ANYTIME! When ANY of my girls want to!!
But you know what it is? These are my special moments, and the thing is, not every day is perfect. I’m still a parent. I still have the times when I need to repeat myself and ask them all to do things, but that’s how it goes. And when Clarissa does things – she does it to perfection – so neat, and “perfect” (yes, OCD runs in our family!)!!
To finish this article off, Clarissa graduated Grade 8 yesterday. Yes, I had tears in my eyes – my baby isn’t so little anymore, and she received the Generosity Award!! I am SO proud of her and what she has accomplished thus far, and I can’t believe how fast time really flies!
Here are some pictures from last night…

If I had to say something to a new mom, I would say – enjoy EVERY minute of it!! There are going to be ups and downs … just don’t wish for time to speed up, because the early years, the every day – are the days that count!
I’ve had friends that talk bad about their kids – I’ve heard them wish things that aren’t nice, and it truly does sicken me. It saddens me that people can talk that way. I don’t understand it, and so I distance myself from those people…
Cherish the time you do have with your children, and don’t beat yourself up over every little thing that you think goes wrong. Kids are kids. They adjust to new surroundings, new challenges – they just need to know and feel how much they are loved. And this, is what I strive to do every day!
I am so grateful for my children, and the times that they have taught me what life is all about – love, family, and memories. I look forward to each and every moment more that I get to spend with them!❤️
here is a video of Clarissa when she was younger – it’s one of my favourites!!

Spread joy and laughter in ways you know how

You know, I’ve gotten into doing the Tik Tok Videos and it has brought joy into our family and, to others as well! I share them on Cinnamon, and hope that they have brightened your day as well! Check out my channel HERE!!

You hear all these things from other people that they take your information and this and that, but at this point, I think that the whole Internet does! Facebook, Instagram, even the Government. So I figure, I’m not going to let that stop me from creating videos that I can actually look at myself and laugh over, because laughter definitely helps get through the day!!

The quote above, is so true. “A good laugh heals a lot of hurts.” I find this is so true because it distracts us from pain. It distracts us from anger. It distracts us from sadness.
This article here, I will share a couple of videos that include Mark and I – he’s been a good sport through this all! I hope it will bring you some laughs today, through these troubling times!!

This particular one here, I got him!! You should try it on someone, it’s actually fun and funny!

And this one here, was taken yesterday – I heard the song and HAD to do it! It’s funny because I will be scrolling through Tik Tok, and then I get an idea and just go with it!!

I heard this sound here …. cracked me up!

And for those who haven’t seen this one yet …

And of course, this challenge here – it was also a fun one!!

I am always looking for ideas and will take requests! Send me a DM on Twitter (@minduntangled) and let me know what you would like to watch/hear!
Thanks so much all for your continued support! That’s all for today!! ❤️

My love for my daughter

A daughter is someone you laugh with, dream with, and love with all your heart.

– Unknown

As most of you know, I have three daughters, and I consider myself very fortunate! I love them so much!!
This particular article; however, is for my middle daughter, Madison.

I am reminded of a special night where our bond grew deeper, as shown in my header picture. And because of that night, I wrote a poem for her. I did a specific article titled “Just Hold on Tight” which will explain it all, but I also want to share this video with you in which I speak out the poem when I spoke at a conference last year in Ottawa:

If you follow me, you also know that I wrote an article about the birth of my first daughter, which you can find here. I am mentioning this because I am going to share a little bit about Madison before I get into why I am grateful for her.

Madison came into this world on November 2, 2005. Her dad and I knew that Madison would be a girl, and we both agreed this time that we would have her in the hospital. Let me tell you, I never thought how much I would appreciate an epidural!!!

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After my natural experience with Julianna, I decided getting a needle in my back wouldn’t be as bad – boy was I right!! And what an easy delivery it was!! In and out of the hospital, and home to live life with two girls aged 16 months apart!!

Remember how I mentioned that the food cravings I had for Julianna was pizza and frozen yogurt? WELL, Madison was ALL Greek food! I would go to the food court during my lunch and grab the whole works – Souvlaki, potatoes, salad, pita, and extra tzatziki!! A little something like this…

Go figure one of Madison’s favourite foods now is…Greek! 😋
Now, fast forward a few years, and during those years. Madison has always been a sensitive, yet “strong” one. She always stuck up for her sisters, and continues to do so. She’s like a second mom to them. She’s responsible, she’s loving, she’s smart, and she’s always thinking of others! She just blows my mind how much she “carries” herself! ❤️

I remember one morning a few years back, I was having a panic episode, and was sitting on the stairs. I couldn’t breathe too great and was shaking almost to the point where I felt like I was going to vomit. I thought the girls were still sleeping, but as the tears rolled down my face, Madison came around the corner. No words. No nothing. She just sat with me and hugged me. And if you’ve been hugged by Madison, you would understand how much those hugs are so appreciated. She hugs and pats her hand on my back, and she asks me if I need some water. And she just sat with me as I took sips. It was such a beautiful moment, and I’ve had a few of these moments with her, which is why I am so grateful, for ALL that she does, and for the young woman she is becoming.

She’s my daughter, but she’s also my best friend. She has made me realize that it’s okay for me to be vulnerable. She has taught me that even though I have my moments as a mom, as a person – whether I’m happy, sad, or frustrated – we are all human and we are all worthy.

I have so much to be thankful for. She understands, at such a young age, and I just cannot express enough the love I have for her. I have to remind her that she is a kid and to have fun – not to worry so much because I want her to enjoy her life BEING a kid!! Know what I mean?

But it’s in her bones. It’s who she is – her love, her kindness, her compassion, her FEELINGS! Sure, she can have her moments, but I am astonished at how she holds herself, even through these teenage years where there are many different emotions flying!! 😂😍

A point I want to make about this, is that as parents, we tend to try to protect our children and sometimes we may expect too much from them. I’ve seen it in other parents, and I’m guilty of it as well! But I’ve learned over the years just how much children learn from watching us as parents.

Children learn from the love and the attention that we give to them, and to each other. The way that we speak to them, the way that we show our appreciation for even the smallest of things that they do. It all counts. Yes, there is discipline, but our children need to KNOW that we love them and accept them for who they are. There will be failures, but those failures help us to learn and mature.

Words AND actions go very far when bringing up children, and I just ask – if you have children – please make sure to appreciate them and love them – cherish ALL the moments, because life is just too short. ❤️

Madison has taught me a lot as a mom over the years. She makes her Momma so proud. I am so proud to call her my daughter…I would be so lost without her. Thank you Madison, for being YOU!
This article is inspired by Ken Melendez who created a Coil Gratitude Challenge.Cinnamon partnered up, in which you can find those details here!

Be YOU!

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.

– Oscar Wilde
That’s me in the header picture – laughing and bubbly. That’s always been me – the social butterfly, the one who gets along with most people, the one who believes anything and everything that is said, trusting only too easily.
That’s me. And no one else.I don’t want to be anybody else BUT me!
But guess what? I am also the one who is guilty of allowing myself to get into times like this …

This is the one who has had to take steps back. To really take a pause in life, and just breathe, because sometimes, life’s moments creep up on us…
I posted this quote on social media yesterday:

This is one quote that will always stick in my mind, because truth is, I’m too sensitive, and I’ve been stepped on way too many times.

We all have, at some point in our lives.

We are all sensitive in our ways. We are only trying to do what we think is the best thing for us in our lives at certain times, but the sad thing is, because of our kindness, we tend to let people walk all over us.

I find that my mind gets tangled too much, especially when it is triggered towards me, or my girls. Anyone who hurts my girls, they hurt me. And yes, it leaves a dent in me. I will never forget how it’s made them feel, or how it’s made me feel. No parent wants to see their children crying because of something that has been said or done.
And I know, I get it, it’s all about forgiving and letting go. Trust me, I’ve had to do a lot of that shit in my past – not just for others that have hurt me, but for myself. I have had to forgive myself for allowing ME to get so emotional and trusting towards others.

Thing is, allowing ourselves to go with the emotion helps the healing process. Allowing ourselves to “take a break” helps us to grasp the importance in our lives and to keep pushing forward. Find gratitude and appreciating even the smallest of things.

Even if that means shutting people out…
The thing is, sometimes you need that time to find yourself, because nobody’s going to do it for you, right?

You see, in life, we are faced with different “things”. Things that make us feel happy, and things that make us feel lost, or angry – like we don’t know what the hell we are doing, or where we are going.

And sometimes, it does take a little longer to find yourself, as you realize different people pulling you in different directions. The people who make you feel lost, the ones that hurt you – are the people that shouldn’t be in your life.

You try so damn hard to be your happy (crazy, fun) self, but then people just keep crossing the line. There are limits. YOU have limits. So how much hurt can you take before you really do explode, and finally FIGHT back? But then you still get slammed because they really do think you’re the mean one for even sticking up for yourself?!

There is only so much any one person can take from all of the noise, so what do we do??!!
Try your damn hardest to just IGNORE all the negative noise! DON’T give up!! Because it does get better…you have to remember to STICK UP FOR YOURSELF!
Because some people just aren’t worth your time OR energy, and you have to do what’s best for your mental health. TAKE CARE OF YOU so that you can be HAPPY!!!!
It may take time, but at the end of the day, if you waste too much of your time entangling your mind with it, that web becomes bigger and darker, and that’s one thing you DON’T want!! You NEED to do something about the hurt emotions you are feeling…
It’s like when you play Jenga …


You keep stacking and pulling, but at the wrong time, it can all come tumbling down – and eventually it does, but…you pick up, and you try again, right?
Well, it’s like your life – you keep trying and trying, and yes, it all crumbles around you, and it doesn’t make sense. BUT … you PICK yourself UP!And you try again. You keep building!!!
But you can’t let it consume your mind. Don’t keep all the little things bottled up inside. Find a way to release that energy, and…
…find yourself. Find your smile, your laugh, the person you are, and continue to be YOU! You can do it!!! ❤️


“Let’s untangle our mind, and set it free…”